This is the comment I wrote on the article before the comments were removed.
I don't think it's true that gender roles were created by men. Although traditional gender roles clearly favor men, sexism is created and maintained by both men and women. I don't think it's fair or accurate to see one gender as the enemy. That just seems to feed into the notion that men are the doers and women are the people having things done to them. It's not that simple.
Although I agree that discussing male victims shouldn't be considered anti feminist. It's really sad that helping victims of a crime has to be a political battle.
Part of me thinks I'm nitpicking about a minor point in an article about a much bigger issue, but part of me thinks this is important. I think it's important that feminism avoid associating with misandry as much as possible. It's not nice to tell a victim of rape it's men's fault nobody takes his trauma seriously. That's far too close to blaming the victim, even if that's not what's intended. The reasoning is also wrong. In my life, most of the people who have tried to get me to behave in stereotypically female ways are women. Many women will enforce sexism, just as many men will blame male victims of rape. They do not understand (or perhaps care) why their behavior hurts their own self interest. There are many people out there who will not question conformity. For them the point is not the norms they are enforcing so much as it is conformity itself. They want everything where it "should" be.
Anyway. I feel really bad for the subject of this article, as well as Marcuse and anyone else who has suffered from this form of prejudice. I'm glad this article was written because this is clearly a topic more people need to be aware of. It's rather sad that we apparently require political activism in order for people to empathize with those who are taken advantage of.
Some people asked me what some of the worst comments were. I have some of them on my browser still so I'll post them here. Read at your own risk.
The MRA shits in the comments don't know whether to praise this man as a hero or complain that #1 said men did something wrong.
10/10 would feast on their tears again
This was rape technically, but it should be fairly obvious why no one takes it seriously.. Even if I said no to a woman and she went ahead and did something, why not just knock her off? Why not scream at her to stop? I am 6'3 and 230 pounds, what's she going to do? She's not going to be able to control me.
I'm trying to not dismiss this, because I realize that it is rape, and it is wrong, but hearing this compared to other stories, it just sounds like you were to drunk and didn't stop her. If you didn't stop her and you were consciously aware of what she was doing, then it wasn't really rape. But I wasn't there, so I don't know how much you're bothered by it. I just have a difficult time seeing how you didn't stop her if you didn't want to have sex. I'd wager 100 out of a 100 woman would be unable to hold me down or physically force me to do anything. If a girl for whatever reason tried to I guess sit on me without consent I'd just tell her to knock it off.
You weren't raped; you were sexually assaulted. Rape is a penetrative act that involves risk to the victim because of the physical damage - anal or vaginal tears - it creates.
I believe your story, and I'm sure it's been emotionally distressing for you, but it wasn't rape. "Rape" and "sexual assault" are closely related terms, but they're not synonymous.
There are a few worse than this, but I think you get the idea.