Tesseracts wrote:RLG, you had a good point about people who play the victim. It seems to me like abusive people almost always act like they're victims as a form of manipulation.
They don't act like they're victims, they think they are victims.
http://www.amazon.com/Evil-Inside-Human-Violence-Cruelty/dp/0805071652/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1447883021&sr=8-1&keywords=roy+baumeister+evil
I recommend that book, Evil by Roy Baumeister every chance I get. It's so important. Also Viktor Frankl's Man's Search for Meaning. If you want to understand the psychology of people who are abusive, those two are must reads.