reallifegirl wrote:I suppose what actually really bothers me is when a group I belong to (in this particular case, women) is being 'defended' by hypocritical actions. Partly because Wong (and some of the other writers) is trying to talk over a group that already can speak for itself, and partly because he can then turn around and silence the same group he's supposedly attempting to defend. It's a double-whammy: 'shut up, ladies, but also be grateful for well I'm representing you'.
It also sucks because I do have feminist leanings, but these type of actions reflect badly on people who do. So not only are we being spoken over by someone who isn't even a woman, he's also making the rest of the group look bad. To be fair, he's not the only person who does this, so part of my ire is that Wong is just one of many who pull this type of stunt, and I guess it's just one of those things that particularly sets me off.
Hmmm... this is interesting to me. Outwardly I'm white (well, half white/half light skinned hispanic, but people see me as white), male, heterosexual, from the middle class suburbs. Mentally I'm a freak, but in terms of demographics, I'm not part of any minority group (which would include women, which statistically worldwide I think are the majority gender, but you get my point) that would ever need to be defended or stood up for. Even bringing up my Mexican ancestry, I'm reminded that I'm white hispanic and my Spanish sucks, so ostensibly, I don't belong to any minority group outwardly - in fact, I suppose I'm *the* group that is disliked so much, fulfilling much of the Dead White European Male that was bandied about so much while I was in college, the one that has a blood guilt for oppression, yada yada yada.
How do you deal with people coming in and defending you because you're 'one of the minorities' by lieu of having an innie instead of an outie in the genitalia area? My default assumption is I don't know much about other people, so I try not to assume, since I'm so often wrong when I do, so the 'I'll defend these people while telling the people I'm defending to be grateful' is fucking bizarre to me.
Do you find you have to take a certain 'stance' due to pressure coming from other women (or whatever group, if you're a lesbian and communist and whatever...), as well as a responsibility that you have to stand up for 'the cause'? Does that make you hypersensitive to people like Wong when they do that, where you carry the frustration along, or is it incited fresh by each time something like that happens?
Like I said, demographically, I'm plain vanilla, the most common flavor, a white (sort of) guy from a middle class background, but mentally I'm a freak, so I've never seen myself as part of anything but a team of one, not part of a group. All of this looks bizarre to me. So when you say 'group I belong to', that's not something I can identify with, since even white suburban heterosexual males are a mystery to me because they're all so damn normal mentally, boring boring boring, get a good job have a house with a nice tv and cars and kids et al.
“Ever since you’ve joined this PC thing, you just bully people, and wait for people to say anything improper so you can just jump down their throats for whatever words he or she used.”
“‘He or she’ is an agender phobic microagression, Sharon. You are a bigot.”