Tesseracts wrote:I don't like the aversion people have to fetishists. If I lost my limbs I'd be glad to find somebody who is turned on specifically by missing limbs. I would be providing them with something they really really want but can't easily find, and that puts me in a much better position in the relationship. Relationships are all about controlling people, so this is pretty much ideal.
The only issue is if the fetishist regards the object of their fetish as nothing more than a source of fetish fulfillment. However, that is also a potential issue in any non fetish relationship. People without fetishes are perfectly capable of objectifying their partners. People with fetishes are capable of regarding partners as human.
This isn't really on topic but it does have to do with a woman trying to use a fetish to gain more traction on me. I've known this girl a long time online, she's drop dead gorgeous, I mean, she looks like Paige from WWE mixed with Megan Fox. The only problem is, she lives in England and I live in the US. Well, we've been talking for a while rather candidly and she has told me she wants to move here. When she told me that, I had to finally tell her that getting to know her over the last two years, that I loved her. She told me the same thing. Why someone like her would be into me is a mystery but she said that she has never met anyone as caring, sweet, kind, etc... in her life, that she has felt from day 1 that she thought I was her soul mate. Anyway, we were talking after that and we got into the kinks we're into. Nothing out of the ordinary really, nothing that would make George Takai say "Oh My!" to, you know. Then I told her my biggest one is glasses on a woman for different reasons: I love looking into a woman's eyes and seeing them enlarged by the lenses, it gives the woman a kind of "puritanical' look (probably the wrong term but you get my drift) sort of a librarian/teacher look and for other reasons when the woman is looking up at me if you get my drift. This was last Monday I believe, yeah, it was before RAW came on (we're both huge wrestling fans, so we chat during it weekly).
Wed. morning rolls around and I get online and see an email from her. It's titled "Just got back and look what I got for you!" I open it up and she had gone to an eye doctor and got prescription glasses even though her eyesight was pretty good. She had a little blurriness in one eye but never went because she thought guys hated girls with glasses. She sent me a few private pics showing them off and then asked if I loved her more.
It was like she was trying to increase my feelings about her by getting something that turns me on. I had to explain to her that I loved them on her, i loved her without them, too. But seeing as though she did need them a bit, it was good that she got them because if she does move here, she wouldn't be able to get a DL without them. But yeah, it was funny that she was trying to bribe me with my "fetish" (if it even is a fetish). Just proves though that in reality, women still hold all the power in relationships.