by cmsellers » Sun Dec 09, 2018 5:13 am
I get the idea of needing to "come out" as kinky. The issue here is that the brother thinks that coming out as kinky is the same as coming out as gay.
Coming out as gay matters mostly to people who know you platonically, so they're not shocked when you bring home someone of the same sex. Destigmatization and normalization are nice side effects, but not really the point.
There are really three reasons you would want to "come out" as kinky. The first is with friends of the same age cohort, to see if anyone else has similar kinks and how they handle them. The second is when kinkiness in general or a specific kink in particular is being denigrated by people you know and you want to normalize it. The third is in a context where dating is an expectation: you want to say "hey, I at least need you to be comfortable with knowing I'm into this stuff and ideally I want to date someone with compatible kinks."
There is no reason to ever tell your parents anything about your kinkiness, and even less to tell them about your specific kink. Brother is an idiot, but he's also 23 years old and excited to discover his sexuality, so while it's inappropriate and certainly weird, I wouldn't say it rises to the level of "bizarre," and I don't think it's at all inexplicable.