LunarTeaHouse wrote:I don’t really know what you’re asking. Is me not wanting a kid to be born into an abusive or neglectful household an indicator that I do care what someone does with their pregnancy?
I think the issue is that you said:
Who cares what someone does with their kid?
(Emphasis mine)
In a thread titled "Infanticide." The choice of words, in the context, did not sound like you intended that particular sentence to refer exclusively to before birth. I did genuinely think your post as a whole was intended to mean "before or after birth, it's their kid and their choice, and no-one else's business."
When it comes to born children, I think the majority opinion is that up to a point it's the parents' choice what they do with the child, but certain things are unacceptable (abuse, neglect, endangerment...) But you do hear parents expressing the view "it's my choice how I raise my child," even when it comes to things that are dangerous or harmful (and indeed public health hazards.) Under most circumstances I assume that most people saying such things are thinking narrowly, and mentally exempting things that are "obviously" not ok while placing whatever it is that they're choosing into the "ok" category.
However in the context of a discussion about infanticide, it comes across differently. Does that make sense?