Mr Dent wrote:My rant: women who date by committee, or more specifically, friend's of women sticking their freaking nose in my business. I was seeing this lovely older woman, we had insane amounts in common, but guess what? Her good friend just ended a long term relationship and just decided that SHE wanted to be with me instead, invited herself along when we went out, whinged incessantly about it to the point were the woman I was with just went 'jesus, just have him, I don't need this', and then they told me, hey guess what, we just decided that you're gonna be with this other girl... without discussing one word of it with me... without me even showing ANY interest in this other one. And then I'm the bad guy when I tell them to fuck right off.
Yeah, that's pretty...wow. Sounds like going out with neither lady might be a wise idea, because that is a big bucket full of nuttiness.
If I had to guess (in my completely unprofessional, pulling-this-out-of-my-ass opinion), Lady #2 sounds like she may have some sort of controlling friendship with the lady you intended to go out with. There are some women (and possibly men, I suppose) who feel like they can and should completely control their friend's attentions via manipulation. And if someone is threatening to take that attention away (such as a date), they'll find a way to make it about them ("I'm coming with you on your date") and neutralizing/removing the threat ("You can't date him because I suddenly want to date him"). And the friend, used to giving them what they want (or feeling like they have to), do what they're being manipulated into doing.
Anyhow, I think you probably dodged a bullet no matter what the situation is.