by D-LOGAN » Sun May 12, 2013 11:47 am
Implicaton.
As in the concept of being told what you've just said implies something that you didn't mean. Like, saying one specific thing, and having someone else hear an entirely different meaning to it, then assume that's what you meant, and tell you that's what you're implying! Or worse, someone knowing it's not what you meant, but telling you, IT implies something else. Like the non-human, non-sentient words have the power to decide on having a meaning, you the person who said them, didn't give them, gah!
Now don't get me wrong, I'm not against the entire concept of implication, as of course there are times when you are actively saying one thing while implying something else. And there's always irony, hyperbole, sarcasm, metaphor etc. You can give your words a meaning other than what is literally there in the words you're saying. BUT IT IS ALWAYS YOU THAT DOES THAT! No one else, anywhere, ever has the power to do that. No one can put a different meaning in YOUR words, unless they're some kind of wizard.
Again, there are exceptions, like if you've said something but haven't thought it through, or what the logical extension of your train of thought would be. In which case, someone else pointing that out would indeed be helpful. But this, being told what you're implying stuff, unless YOU have implied it yourself, it hasn't been implied, that's your decision. And it's everywhere. And. It. Drives. Me. Mad.
Obviously it's all over the internet, with people telling you what you've just said really means, even though you didn't mean that. But I see it all the time in real life. Friends, family, co-workers. I honestly think I'm in the minority over this. And my housemate is a divil for it. Like a standard example with him and me would be:
Me: That a new jumper?
Him: Yeah .... why what's wrong it?
Me: Nothing, I was just asking.
Him: Why does it look stupid or something?
Me: No, there is no reason behind what I said, other than the actual word's meaning themselves!
Him: Then why did you bring it up?
Me: I was just making casual conversation, I don't even care. I just hadn't noticed that one before.
Him: Why is it important?
Me: It isn't, I don't care about it all, whether you've been wearing that jumper since the day you were born, or if it just miraculously appeared on you five seconds ago, neither makes a jot of difference to me, I just on a momentary impulse thought I hadn't seen it before and in a moment I now regret commented on it. I have no deeper motive here. If I had, I assure you I would say it!
Him: Well your jumper isn't that nice either!
Me: I NEVER SAID IT WAS!
Him: Jeeze relax.
Me: NO YOU RELAX, AND TELL YOUR STUPID F@*#ING JUMPER TO RELAX TOO!
Him: Ah, so you don't like the jumper?
Me: Well now I don't, which you can tell by the fact, THAT I'M ACTUALLY SAYING IT! That's how human communication works! Gah.
One of us will not make it out of that house alive.
Not just yet, I'm still tender from before.